Frequently Asked Questions

Typically we meet about 4 to 5 months before the event to select the invitation, paper, font, ink and work on the wording.

6 to 8 weeks before the event. You need to consider if there will be a “B-List” in which case you may want to send them a week earlier.

Make your RSVP date 3 to 4 weeks before the event to allow enough time for you to give a final head count to the caterer and to complete your seating chart

Even if you’re trying to keep your event small, there are always a few people you wish you could invite—though that could mean going over capacity at your venue. As guests begin to RSVP, inevitably there will be people who cannot attend. At this point, you can start working through your “B-List” and sending them invitations.

You should take a couple of invitations (stuffed and ready to mail) to the post office to be weighed by the postal staff. Although it can be frustrating, many times you’ll find that the invitations aren’t the exact same weight. If you are having this problem, go to a second post office to confirm the weight. Aside from the weight, other things that will affect the postage include the shape of envelope (squares or vertical envelopes are extra) and overall envelope size.

Remember, it’s customary to add postage to the response card envelope.

There are a variety of stamps available at the post office or on their website: You can also design a custom stamp through:

Hand cancel means that you (or the post office staff) hand stamps the ‘cancel’ onto the envelope. It’s usually done so the invitation doesn’t get stuck in the machine. We also find that it looks nicer – you’ll avoid having lines on the envelope.

If you decide to send “Save the Dates” they are typically mailed 6 to 10 months before the event. They can be as simple or elaborate as you want and they do not need to coordinate with your invitation. These can be sent as a postcard, card in an envelope or via email.